For some people, weddings are beautiful ceremonies that celebrate the love two people share. For others, weddings are train wrecks waiting to happen. It is important to stay calm on your wedding day, and not freak out when little things mess up. The folks at David Rothstein Music have compiled this list of little things to calm your nerves on your wedding day:
1. Have a drink
Hey, a little mimosa on your wedding day never hurt anyone. Try having a groomsmen or bridesmaids toast. A small drink can help calm your nerves. Just be sure to not overdo it. Champagne is key at weddings, but save the big celebratory drinking for the reception. Cheers to your big day!
2. Sneak away with your fiancé
If there is one person who can understand the emotions you are feeling at this moment, it’s your fiancé. It seems untraditional for the bride and groom to see each other before the ceremony, but an intimate moment with the one you love is a great way to calm your nerves.
3. Do something weird and crazy
One of the best ways to relieve stress is doing something crazy. Blare a Beyoncé song with your bridesmaids and embrace your inner diva. Dancing around the room with your best friends will not only release endorphins, but it will help set a fun tone for the rest of the day.
4. Look back at how far you’ve come
Your wedding is the start of you and your partner’s life together. The two of you have come a long way. If you’re high school sweethearts, think about senior prom or having your first class together. If you met at work, remember your first day on the job. Go back to all the long days and nights you’ve spent together. Thinking about these happy memories will only make you excited you have a whole lifetime together to make more.
5. Stay hydrated and eat something
Weddings are hectic, there is so much to do and so little time to do it. You may find yourself running around making sure everything looks pristine: checking the flowers, seating arrangements and food preparation. Worrying about all these things takes up more energy than you think. The last thing you want on your wedding is fainting from hunger or exhaustion. Take a break, drink some water and eat a granola bar.
6. Be prepared
Make a checklist for everything you are going to need for your big day: rings, makeup, cufflinks and anything else you’ll need. Forgetting one of these small items may cause major added stress, so simply make a list of all of them. Go through it, make sure you have everything and then double-check it.
Pack an emergency kit too. If you think something bad is going to happen, prepare for it. A kit with extra hairspray, bobby pins, q-tips, makeup remover and panty hose will come in handy. Imagine the stress of panty hose ripping, and then running to the closest department store to buy a spare. Bring an extra pair, just to stay safe.
7. Reframe your anxiety as excitement
Being nervous on your wedding day is normal, and nerves are not necessarily a bad thing, they keep you on your toes. When trying to calm your anxiety, it may lead to more anxiousness. Professor Alison Wood Brooks of Harvard Business School, says anxiety is all a matter of perspective. Her studies have shown people performed better in stressful situations when prompted to get excited. Instead of sitting down and doing some deep breathing, try jumping up and down a bit or giving yourself a pep talk. Reshaping your emotions is a healthier alternative to suppressing them.
8. Focus on what’s important
A lot of different things can cause stress or make you nervous on your wedding. These can be everything from your whole extended family being in town to the flowers at the reception. Look past of all that, and focus on what this day really is: the moment you and your love start your new life together. Forget about the little things, and smile about the journey you are about to start with the one you love most.